Funerals are about love, memory, and support. What you wear won’t “fix” the day, but it can show care and respect. This guide keeps things straightforward and human: no fashion fluff, no strict rules—just clear, practical advice so you can focus on being there for the family.

Why your outfit matters

Clothes send signals. At a funeral, the signal is simple: I’m here, I’m thinking of you, and I’m not drawing attention to myself. That’s it. Your outfit should blend in, feel appropriate, and let you move, sit, and stand comfortably through the service and any graveside moments.

The basics

• Colours: Dark or muted works best—black, navy, charcoal, deep brown, forest green, burgundy. If you don’t have black, navy or charcoal is perfect.
• Style: Clean, simple, modest. Think business-formal or smart-casual that leans formal.
• Fit: Not tight, not sloppy. Aim for neat and comfortable.
• Texture & prints: Solid colours beat loud prints. If you do a pattern, keep it subtle.
• Goal: Don’t distract. Keep it quiet and respectful.

Quick checklist before you leave

• Clothes clean, pressed, and comfortableShoes you can stand and walk in (possibly on grass or gravel)
• Layers for changing temperatures
• Tissues, a small bottle of water, and any medication
• Phone on silent 

What to wear: simple options for everyone

Women

• Go-tos: Dark dress (knee-length or longer), blouse + midi skirt, blouse + tailored trousers, or a dark pantsuit.
• Layers: Cardigan, blazer, or coat in a muted shade.
• Shoes: Closed-toe flats or low to mid heels. Block heels are better outdoors.
• Accessories: Small bag; simple jewellery; scarf if needed.
• Make-up & hair: Natural and low-key. Avoid anything glittery or overly scented.

Men

• Go-tos: Dark suit + dress shirt + muted tie (optional but appropriate).
• No suit? Dark trousers + button-down shirt + dark jumper/blazer.
• Shoes: Polished dress shoes or neat leather loafers.
• Accessories: Belt to match shoes; watch kept simple; pocket square optional and subtle.

Gender-neutral

• Go-tos: Dark suit or coordinated separates (blazer + trousers/skirt), plain shirt or knit, simple shoes.
• Tip: Focus on tidy lines and muted colours—same rules, same respect.

Children & teens

• Keep it comfy: Smart clothes they won’t fidget in. Dark jumper or cardigan, plain shirt/blouse, neat trousers/skirt, simple shoes.
• Avoid: Bright graphics, neon trainers, noisy accessories.

What not to wear 

• Loud colours (neon), big logos, bold slogans
• Clubwear, party dresses, distressed denim
• Flip-flops, muddy trainers, sky-high stilettos (especially outdoors)
• Noisy jewellery, jangly chains, mirrored sunglasses indoors
• Heavy perfume/aftershave (many people are scent-sensitive)

Different settings, small tweaks

Seasons & weather: dress smart for the day

• Breathable fabrics: cotton, linen blends, light wool.
• Lighter layers in dark or muted tones.
• Closed-toe shoes you can walk in.
• Bring water and tissues; avoid heavy make-up that may smudge.
  

• Dark coat, scarf, and gloves.
• Thermal layers under shirts or tights if needed.
• Waterproof or water-resistant shoes for snow or wet grass.

• Compact umbrella (plain, dark).
• Water-resistant outer layer; avoid long, floaty hems.
• Tie hair back if it whips in the wind.
  

If you don’t own black (or a suit)

Coming straight from work?

On a tight budget? Keep it simple

• Borrow a blazer, coat, or shoes from a friend.
• Choose the plainest, darkest items you already own.
• Skip buying new—respect shows more in presence than price tags.

Accessories: small and thoughtful

• Bags: Small to medium; structured looks neater.
• Jewellery: Minimal—stud earrings, slim bracelet, simple pendant, classic watch.
• Headwear: If your faith asks for it, absolutely. Otherwise keep hats small and practical.
• Tech: Phone on silent, smartwatch on silent, no bright flashing notifications.

Hair, make-up, and fragrance

• Hair: Neat and out of the way.
• Make-up: Natural tones. Avoid glitter and heavy gloss.
• Scent: Go unscented or very light. Some venues are scent-free for health reasons.

Cultural and faith notes

• Christian/Jewish services: Dark, modest clothing is standard. Men may wear a kippah at Jewish services if appropriate.
• Muslim services: Dress modestly; head coverings for women may be expected in some settings.
• Hindu services: White can be appropriate; ask the family or check the notice.
• Buddhist services: Modest, subdued colours; avoid flashy accessories.
• When in doubt, ask the family or the funeral director. They’ll appreciate that you care enough to check.
  

Plus-size, petite, and mobility tips

• Plus-size: Choose structured pieces with a little stretch; a longline blazer smooths and smartens any outfit.
• Petite: Keep hemlines and sleeves tailored to avoid looking swamped; slim-profile shoes help balance proportions.
• Mobility aids: Coordinate cane or frame accessories if you like, but comfort and safety first—always.

Sustainable choices (if you want them)

• Rewear a dark outfit you already own—totally acceptable.
• Borrow or rent if needed.
• Choose quality basics you can use again for interviews or formal events.
  

Sample outfits (mix and match)

• Dark dress + cardigan + flats
• Blouse + midi skirt + blazer + low heels
• Dark trousers + knit + blazer + loafers
• Suit + shirt + muted tie (optional) + dress shoes
• Smart jumpsuit (dark, unadorned) + simple jacket + flats

A tiny packing list for the day

• Tissues, water, throat lozenges
• Compact umbrella (plain, dark)
• Safety pin, plasters, pain relief if needed
• Lint roller, hair ties, a small snack if it’s a long day

Final thoughts